Blog: Because I Said So!

Think You Give Consequences Correctly? Read This.

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If you are a mom or dad of multiple children, you may already know this; even if you don’t, you may have noticed it in your nieces, nephews, or your friends’ kids…

There is no parenting tip blueprint showing how to give effective rewards or consequences.

Every child needs his own individual and personalized plan to incentivize him, behave in a certain way, or do what you say. So, what gives?

“The Gift of Failure” by Jessica Lahey inspired me to write this post.

I want to begin with t…

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10 Good Parenting Ways to Nurture Confident Kids

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More than the academics and more than excelling in school plays, sports, and their dance recitals, I had a dream of raising and nurturing confident kids before I even planned to have any children. I always knew that children need a strong sense of self and an attitude that they are more than capable for them to become successful later on in their life. But, knowing this is only a healthy start to a long journey to cultivating a next generation that is self-assured and capable of persevering thro…

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How Our Parenting Style Creates Perfectionism in Our Children

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Let’s face it. Our children face double standards daily. “Do as I say, not as I do” is the message we are giving them with most of our parenting styles. We want our kids to excel in school, sports, and activities yet we know that kids should be encouraged to relax and just be kids. As parents, we see perfect families on holiday cards, Facebook, and Instagram.

Whether we realize it or not, that can affect how we push our children to do well. Maybe even too well.

How can parents balance the desi…

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Why Chores Are Absolutely Essential to Your Child's Development

My children are SPOILED!

I'm a parent coach and sometimes even I utter the words above. And when I do, I'm tempted to blame today's culture. But, if I want my children to be independent, happy, and self-sufficient adults, I need to focus on the things I can change. If you are an American parent following parenting tips or parenting advice trends, you probably don’t require your children to do chores even though your parents expected it of you AND you think that children who do chores regularly …

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What Is The Right Age for Your Kids to Have Cell Phones?

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Do you ever wish you had a live-in IT professional?

Parenting today is vastly different from when we were kids. Technological advances from video game consoles to personal handheld devices have made it hard… no, impossible to keep up!

One of the biggest challenges with our children today, I believe, are smartphones. It seems like every kid has one. And for sure they all want one.

But when is it appropriate to let them have one?

You are not alone.

I love Google and as a parent coach, I like …

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7 Key Areas of Childhood Development

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Child development is one of the hottest topics we, as parents, want to learn more about as soon as our kids are born. In this series, we will look at a child’s emotional, cognitive, physical, and motor growth, language and communication, and behavioral development.

With a good understanding of cognitive or intellectual development, we are looking at how our kids learn, solve problems, and retain memory. With the understanding and knowledge of the different ways our children learn to think, rea…

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5 Ways to Instill Positive Discipline

Let’s face it, typical discipline for your spirited child is no fun at all, neither for the child or the parent. It’s scary for your child and you, as the parent, are overwhelmed by the end of it in guilt and frustration.

But what is the right way of disciplining your kids? There are about as many blogs and opinions about how to instill positive discipline as there are blogs on crockpot recipes. So, what do you do?

As a mom and a coach, I want to let you know that the best way is to keep it …

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Got a Spirited, but Unmotivated 😑 Child?

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One of the most common complaints I hear from parents about their kids is, “why is he/she so unmotivated and lazy?”

Are you looking for help to motivate your children from zero drive to independent success?

My clients know all too well that distractions like social media, YouTube, video games, and Netflix only compound the problem.

I've got 5 tips for you so you can take a look at some mindset shifts and tools you can use to motivate your children.

Tip 1: Check yourself before you wreck yo…

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Still Got Kids in your Bed? Read This

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To co-sleep or not to co-sleep? That is the question.

As a parent coach, one of the first questions I ask my clients is if they have a child sleeping in their bed. About 50% of my clients with young children answer “yes.” Of those, about 95% tell me they do NOT want their child in their bed anymore. They just don't know HOW to get the kids out.

Effective Child Discipline begins...

...once the child is out of the marital bed. Many of my clients do not like hearing this. But it's true. When a c…

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Teen Troubles Tamed!

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A lot of moms ask for parenting help with their teens. What worked when their kids were younger no longer works for teens. And they don't want to make the same mistakes their parents made with them.

Why is it so hard to parent teens?

As moms, we are still influential but our influence wanes. Teens naturally rebel and they really need a lot of freedom. And with the stress teens face today, they have a larger need for fun, too. Plus, being an adolescent is super stressful. It feels like nobody u…

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