Blog: Because I Said So!

ADHD or Sleep Deprivation?

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Does Your Spirited Child Have ADHD or Are They Sleep Deprived?

If you are worried your spirited child may have ADHD because they child run around, ignore requests, cries or gets very upset easily, is aggressive, and their teacher complains of "lack of focus" at school, I want you to keep reading.

Before you talk to the teacher and start the process of assessment, I have a quick and easy way to determine if that is the next right step for your family.

   

As you can see from the chart above, there ar…

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Create a Study Space in 3 Easy Steps

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Back to School is here and parenting advice is everywhere. Moms want to know about the most effective parenting tips so their children will have a great year. Creating a study space for your child is top on the list of things to do! Luckily, I have done some research and have parenting advice for you right here!

Step 1

Get your child involved. You may crave total silence and a formal work area and work best late at night. But your kid may be very different. If you find your child reading books…

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Avoid Fighting with Your Defiant and Disrespectful Child?

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When you dreamed about having children there are many realities that you just didn't know about, even if you used to look at other parents and say "Oh, my kids will never do that..."

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That's why I tell my clients that a Mission Statement and a Vision are so important. No, it won't prevent all problems but it will give you a sense of direction when things go awry.

For example, at some point in our parenting, we will hear some version of:

You can’t make me.

At that point, moms…

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What is in Fashion for Moms?

Moms are into fashion.

Nope, not talking about Mom Jeans...

               

Isn't it crazy to see the youngsters wearing these...for real?

Not that kind of fashion.

I'm talking about what is fashionable in "mothering."

Here's what I mean: I'm part of a (fantastic) group of moms in my neighborhood who support each other. A member of the group posted an Atlantic article entitled "The Dangers of Distracted Parenting." There were 31 comments and counting by Noon. I think this hit a nerve beca…

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The Perfect Age for Smart Phones

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Parents want parenting advice on when their child should get a smartphone.
I used to say kids should have the cell phones THEY can afford. If they can afford to purchase and pay for a smartphone, then by all means, they should have one. My assumption is that if a 10-year-old can afford an $800+ phone and the $150/month bill to pay for that phone, he will also have enough self-discipline and emotional regulation that he won't spend all day looking at free porn.

But that's me. And to be comp…

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How and Why Should We Avoid Competitive Parenting

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In today’s era of social media frenzy, our children are growing up more competitive and addicted to approval than ever before. And, they are not alone, because we, as moms, are taking the lead in engaging in what’s called competitive parenting.

None of us start hold our precious baby and think we’re going to “win” at being a mom. Unfortunately, the traps of comparing ourselves against the parenting styles of others (which is the basis of competitive parenting) are all too alluring to avoid.

C…

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10 Resolutions To Tame Angry, Defiant Children

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  • Do you wonder why your child is so angry? 
  • Do you avoid saying "no" because you don't want the melt-down?
  • Do you end up yelling because you didn't say "no" and then feeling guilty about it?

Happy New Year! Okay, okay, it's February but by now our resolutions are all but forgotten, right?

Right.

Here are 10 *new* resolutions for you to use to help you avoid having angry and disrespectful children all in the spirit of "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."

The following res…

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3 Myths of Misbehaving Kids (Pt 4 of 4 Childhood Development Series)

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As the last part of my child development series, I’m inviting you to explore behavior development. This is where there is a lot more to understand behind the scenes than the actions we see. Most often, we are focused on our children’s misbehavior. Their “acting out” behavior. We are tempted to label these outbursts because we are trying to understand the “WHY” of their misbehavior. We might even hear ourselves say “Why did you do that?” or “What were you thinking?”

Understandably, this can be …

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3 Ways to Promote Language & Communication in your Child (Pt 3 of 4 Childhood Development Series)

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A child’s development in communication and language is amazing to observe. Not only are they voicing their opinions and providing a glimpse of how their minds work, but they are exploring new territories, boundaries, and figuring out their place in the family.

Many of us may have expectations (whether we realize it or not) of how our child’s speech should be developing and at what rate, but it is imperative to remember that just as in our previous posts about cognitive and emotional developmen…

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Emotional Development (Pt 2 of 4 Childhood Development Series)

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Continuing with the series on child development, this week we are looking at how we can ensure that your kids are developing emotional maturity. If you have a toddler or preschooler, your biggest question is whether or not your little one is meeting developmentally appropriate social and emotional skills for their age. While it is helpful to understand and know what to expect when it comes to their emotional development, it is also important to realize that emotional skills do not develop at the…

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