I know you’re tired of feeling the guilt, exhaustion, and shame of constantly fighting with your child. You want a peaceful home where your children do what you tell them to do the first time.
You’re a good mom. You just haven’t cracked the code to dealing with a spirited, defiant, argumentative, or strong-willed child yet. Today is a good day because today I’m going to help you crack that code.
Use this worksheet to help you stay focused during the lessons and to jot down notes or questions.
Oh, before you get started, you’ll notice I mention a quiz at the end of the lessons. Unfortunately, the quiz didn’t make it when I changed to my new website (www.parentcoachatlanta.com). If you want to know your true parenting personality, you can always email me at susan@parentcoachatlanta.com and after answering a few questions, you’ll have your answer.
Susan
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Natural Authority is granted as soon as:
Natural Authority is born from
The reason moms have power struggles with their children is because
The decisions we make for our children is always in the best interest of
When we use authoritative parenting we
It’s important to be authoritative in our parenting because it prepares them for
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Be + Have =
Parents have a natural
Be a
Behave like a loving authority and your children will become well-behaved,
them for
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is to ask what is working well.
Write that down here:
is to ask what is working okay but needs to be tweaked.
Write that down here:
is to ask what is not working at all.
Write that down here:
Start with Step Three and write what you are going to work on here:
Tonight’s Homework is to (without judgment)
NOTES:
them for
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When a command (sentence) is really a question when it ends with
Ask yourself “Am I telling or am I…”
When we talk too much we sound like
Tonight’s Homework is to replace
Remember,
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Lesson 4: Effective Consequences
The number one question Susan gets from parents is
Even though I do everything right, my children will still
There are two kinds of consequences. They are
The most important part of delivering consequences is
As parents we never do these two things:
We need to teach our children that when they follow our directions, life is
All Good Things...
them for
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Rarely do we think of effective consequences in the heat
We can delay consequences for...
| Young children up to: | |
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| School-aged up to: | |
| Tweens up to: | |
| Teens up to: |
Strike while the iron is…
When we wait to deliver a consequence
The first thing I want you to do it (even if you need to do it NOW) is
Brainstorm things you want your children to do (chores, errands, etc.)
Use the KISS (keep it simple, sweetie) method and do not bite off...
I am going to tell my child to:
Go ahead! Susan is waiting.
What happened?
them for
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If your child said “no” that’s okay because
If my child says “no” some consequences I can give are
Things will get better and I’ll see real change in about
Susan Morley is a certified parenting coach based in Atlanta, GA. She provides non-clinical parent support for families navigating behavior challenges, screen-time struggles, and emotional dysregulation. If you're searching for a parenting coach near you—or need virtual coaching for strong-willed kids—you’re in the right place.