Raising Children During #metoo

This is the blog post that I really don’t want to write. Not because I don’t have anything to say, but because I know this is a very difficult topic for you, my reader.

And I’m sorry.

And I’m going to do it anyway because…

I often use the adage about oxygen masks in the airplane. We’ve gotta put them on ourselves first so we can then help others. And the same is true for this topic. First, we need to take care of ourselves. Perhaps we have personal experience with sexual assault. Maybe we know a victim. Maybe we know a perpertrator. In any case, when the deluge of information about abuse is everywhere, we can have a negative reaction (and not even realize it).

Self Care

I hope that at least one of you does something really nice for yourself today. Maybe it’s a cup of tea tonight before bed. Or a walk at lunchtime. Maybe you’ll schedule that massage your sister-in-law gifted you last Christmas. It’s so important to relax and restore. Then we can be available to our children, spouses, family, and friends.

Teaching our children about healthy boundaries is an essential start.

But how?

Three things to do right now

  • respect your child when he/she does NOT want to hug or kiss a relative (teaches consent)
  • teach your child anatomically correct names for their body parts (empowers children)
  • explain that parts of our bodies are private and that they are in charge of their bodies (teaches consent and empowers children)

Educate

First, educate yourself then you can educate others, including your children. Here are some resources I like. I hope you find them useful.

  • https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/how-to-talk-about-sexual-harassment-with-tweens-and-teens
  • https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=11069
  • https://www.americangirl.com/shop/ag/the-care-keeping-of-you-f2032 (my girls loved this series)
  • https://www.rainn.org/
  • https://find-your-public-library.dp.la/ (Our libraries are amazing resources of information)

Talk

When you are ready, you can talk about it. With a friend, a therapist, a loved one, your children. You’ve got the ability and the information. Now you just need to trust yourself. And if you need a pep talk, Call me. Use this LINK to schedule a free call. I’m here to listen.

 

Add A Comment